Original Kings of Comedy, Steve Harvey was on Oprah for the second time yesterday to discuss his first book, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man. With an all female audience (are we surprised?) anxiously asking questions about their dating experiences while taking mental notes, ahaaa…, Harvey gave very impressive, straight forward answers. He was actually REALLY GOOD, never gave any fluff or unclear responses. His advice was on point, and the book, shooting to the top of the best seller list, I would highly recommend. That’s at least if you’re wondering exactly how men think. Here’s what Steve has to say…
Man with a plan
Another thing women need to understand, according to Harvey, is that every man has a plan. “Men don’t come up to you to just talk. We come up to you with a plan,” he says. “We’re looking across the room at you, and we don’t care about your hopes and dreams. We don’t care about what your future holds. We saw something we wanted.”
When a man approaches a woman, Harvey says, he already knows what we wants from her, but he doesn’t know what it will cost. “How much time do you want from me? What your standards? What are your requirements? Because we’ll rise to the occasion no matter how high you set the bar if we want to,” he says. “The problem is, women have stopped setting the bar high.
Gone fishin’
Harvey says men are like fishermen — but women are actually the ones looking for a good catch. You won’t be able to find one, though, until you up your standards. “You’ve got sports fishermen, and you’ve got guys out there fishing to eat. You’ve got guys that are fishing to keep the fish, and you’ve got guys that are fishing to catch them, unhook them and throw them back,” Harvey says. “You’ve got to determine along the way which one of the fish you’re going to be.”
Without ironclad standards, Harvey says you’ll always end up back in the dating pool. “You’ve got to quit lowering your standards,” he says. “Set your requirements up front so when a guy hooks you, he has to know this is business.”
And don’t let the man set the pace of the relationship — Harvey says it’s always the woman who has total control. “With all that power, why do you suddenly relinquish this power just because you want a guy to accept you? That’s stupid,” he says. “Say: ‘Look, if you want to be with me, this is what you got to do. This is what it takes to get to me.’”
OTHER TOPICS COVERED
- The Ninety Day Rule: Ford requires it of it’s employees. Should you require it of your man?
- How to spot a mama’s boy and what if anything you can do about it.
- When to introduce the kids. What to read into the first interaction between your date and your kids.
- The five questions every woman should ask a man to determine how serious he is.
- The 3 things a man needs.
PLUS MORE… also, check out HelloBeautiful.com to hear what he says.
